Hasad kya hai aur is se kaisay bacha jaye | hasad ke nuqsanaat

Hasad kya hai aur is se kaisay bacha jaye hasad ke nuqsanaat

Dosray ki achi qismat ki wajah se puhanche wali takleef ko Hasad kehte hain. Bailfaz degar allah talah ki taqseem se ikhtalaaf rakhna “Hasad” kehlata hai

Hasad aik manfi jazba hai jo apni kamtari ke ehsas ki wajah se ubharta hai. Hamaray mazhab mein wazeh tor par bayan kya gaya hai ke bartari ka miyaar taqwa hai. Lekin hassas dil o dimagh ka maalik insaan har chhootey se chhootey kaam mein bhi apni bartari jatanay ki koshish karta rehta hai.

Is duniya mein jab se insaan ne mil kar rehna shuru kya hai muqablay ki fiza bhi qaim ho gayi hai. Ye jantay hue bhi ke sab saathi aik dosray ke liye muawin saabit ho saktay hain aik dosray se muqaabla karna insaan ki fitrat hai. Jis ki barri wajah infiradiat ka ehsas hai.

Insaan ko qudrat ne deegar tamam makhloqaat par bartari to ataa ki hai lekin har wujood ko dosray se mukhtalif takhleeq kar ke aala o adna ki tafreeq bhi kar di hai.

Insaan ke paas jon jon wasail barhatay gaye tarz zindagi behtar hoti gayi aur muqablay ki fiza bhi wasee tar hoti chali gayi. Yun jalan, hasad aur nafrat jaisay manfi jazbaat ka izhaar khulay aam honay laga. Yun to ye tenu hi insaan ke liye muzir hotay hain lekin un mein se sab se khatarnaak jazba hasad ka hai jo kisi insaan ki barbadi ka baais ban sakta hai.

Hasad aadmi ko allah taala ki nafarmani ki taraf le jata hai, kehte hain allah taala ki sab se pehli nafarmani hasad hi ki wajah se waqay ho yi. Shetan ne aadam alaihi salam ko hasad ki wajah se sajda karne se inkaar kar diya, phir sab se pehlay qatal ka baais bhi yahi bana ke qabeel ne habil ko hasad ki bana par qatal kar diya.

Quran pak ki surah falaq mein hai

وَمِنْ شَرِّ حَاسِدٍ إِذَا حَسَدَ

Tarjama: Aur haasid ke shar se pana mangta hon jab wo hasad kere.

Haasid hamesha apni qismat aur muqaddar se nalan rehta hai. Aur allah taala ki un ginat naematain jo is ko haasil hain bhool jata hai. Is terha hasad karne wala khuda ka shukar ada karne se bhi qassar rehta hai.

Haasid dar asal allah taala par naraaz hota hai ke allah taala ne doosron ko wo nemat ( jis ki is ko khwahish hai ) kyun di, phir bande par is ke kisi jurm ke baghair naraaz hota hai kyunkay is nemat ke husool mein is ka kuch ikhtiyar nahi hota, to haasid dar asal allah aur allah ke bundon ka bhi dushman hai.

Hasad aur jalan ( jealousy ) mein farq

Aam tor par jalan ( jealousy ) aur hasad ko hum maienay tasawwur kya jata hai lekin un dono mein bohat farq hai. Jealousy dar haqeeqat aik terha ke khauf ki pedawar hai. Ye kefiyat apni kisi salahiyat ya cheez ke chhin jane ki wajah se peda hoti hai.

Yani jalan rakhnay wala mehroomi ka shikaar nahi hota balkay mehroomi ke khauf mein mubtala ho jata hai. Aam zindagi mein is terha ki kayi misalein millti hain.

Aik zaheen taalib ilm class mein hamesha pehli position laita hai, achanak is ki class mein aik naya taalib ilm aata hai jo isi ki terha zaheen aur laiq hota hai.

To pehlay taalib ilm ko khadshaat la-haq hotay hain ke kahin is ki ahmiyat mein kami na aaye. Ye khadshaat is ke dil mein naye taalib ilm ke liye manfi jazbaat peda karte hain jisay jalan ya jealousy kaha jata hai.

Khadshaat ke sahih saabit honay par ye manfi jazbaat aur bhi gehray hotay chalay jatay hain. Is terha ke jazbaat ka dafatir mein bhi tajurbah kya jata hai, jahan par mulazim ki khwahish hoti hai ke is ke kaam ki hi tareef ki jaye aur wo khud achi salahiyaton ka maalik honay ke bawajood apne saathi mulazmeen se sirf is liye jalan mehsoos karta hai ke wo is ki khwahish ko poora karne mein rukawat ban rahay hain. Khawateen mein bhi khoubsurti aur sataish ke hawalay se aik dosray ke liye jealousy ka ansar paaya jata hai.

Is ke bar aks hasad ke jazbaat is waqt ubhartay hain jab 1 shakhs mein wo ausaf  hotay hain nahi hain jo samnay walay shakhs mein mojood hotay hain. Hasad kisi khauf ke tehat nahi balkay ehsas kamtari ki wajah se peda hota hai.

Aik nalaiq taalib ilm ke zehen mein zaheen talba ke liye manfi jazbaat, napasandeedah mulazim ka afsar ya is ke noor e nazar  mulazim ki taraf manfi jazba, wajibi soorat wali larki ka khobsorat aur ghareeb ka ameer ke liye nafrat amaze rawayya hasad ki barri misalein hain.

Hasad ke jazbaat insaan mein na khushi ki kefiyat ko taqwiyat dete hain. Kuch log hasad ka musbat pehlu taraqqi ki targheeb ko ganwatey hain lekin aisa nahi hai, hasad se millti jalti aik aur kefiyat rashk hai.

Hasad aur rashk mein farq

Rashk karne wala darasal apne maqabil shakhs ki khoobi se mutasir ho kar is se agay niklny ki tug o do mein hota hai. Wo khud ko bartar manwane ke liye doosron se ziyada mehnat aur koshish karta hai. Goya doosron ki taraqqi se targheeb laita hai.

Lekin hasad karne wala aisi koi targheeb nahi laita balkay faqat is baat par kurhta hai ke dosray shakhs ke paas wo shai ya salahiyat kyun hai.

Is ke dil mein ye khwahish hoti hai ke doosron ko jo nemat ya khoobi mili hai wo un se chhin jaye. Chunancha ye kaha ja sakta hai ke rashk aik musbat aur hasad aik manfi jazba hai.

Insaan yun to apna mawazna doosron ke sath karta hi rehta hai lekin jab kisi dosray ko muyassar sahuliyaat aur asaishen is mein ehsas mehroomi aur is shakhs ke liye manfi jazbaat ka baais banin to samajh len ke ye shakhs hasad ki aag mein jal raha hai. Hasad aik khatarnaak kefiyat hoti hai. Jo khud hasad karne walay ke liye nuqsaan ka baais banti hai.

Hasad ka jazba

Hasad aik takhribi jazba hai. Ye takhreeb kaari sirf 1 shakhs ke liye nahi balkay 2 afraad ke liye nuqsaan da hoti hai. Hasad karne wala aik taraf to dosray ki salahiyat par kurhta hai aur doosri taraf is shakhs se is ki khushi cheennay ki koshish bhi karta hai.

Hasad ehsas mehroomi ka nateeja hai aur ye bhi sach hai ke duniya mein har insaan mein koi na koi kamzoree ya kami zaroor hoti hai lekin har shakhs apni mehroomi ya kami ke nateeja mein doosron se hasad nahi karta balkay sirf un logon mein ye manfi jazba parwan charhata hai jo ehsas mehroomi ka shikaar hotay hain.

Ehsas mehroomi ka shikaar log bhi do terha ke hotay hain. Aik wo jo insani mehroomi ki wajah se khud ko pas manzar mein rakhtay hain, un logon mein hasad nahi hota balkay ye khauf ke dabao mein rehtay hain aur doosron se muqaabla karna hi nahi chahtay.

Aisay afraad mayoosi, tanhai aur kamtari ka shikaar rehtay hain. Doosri qisam un logon ki hai jo na to khud koi shai haasil karne ki salahiyat rakhtay hain aur na hi usay doosron ke paas dekh satke hain. Yahan hasad ka jazba janam laita hai.

Hasad ka alfaaz mein izhaar ye hai. Jo mere paas nahi wo is ke paas kyun hai? Ye jazba is waqt ziyada shadeed ho jata hai jab mad-muqabil shakhs hasad karne walay se ziyada ba-salahiyat na ho ya phir is se kam tar hi ho.

Satwen class ki aik taliba apni class monitor ki bulaa wajah shikaytein lagaya karti thi aur usay tang bhi kya karti thi. Teachers ke daryaft karne par is ne koi wajah nahi batayi. Bachi ke walidain se rabita kya gaya. Walida ne ghar mein jab is se baat ki to is ne monitor ke liye jin alfaaz ka izhaar kya wo kuch yun tha :

“hamari miss bhi har kisi ko monitor bana deti hain. Wo to itni kaali kaloti si hai, is ke abbu ke paas gaari bhi nahi hai, usay monitor nahi banana chahiye. Mein to kabhi is ki baat nahi manoo gi”

Is terha ke jazbaat ka izhaar aksar wo bachay karte hain ke jin mein maali tor par mustahkam honay ka ghuroor ghar se milta hai aur wo liaqat o zahanat ko kuch ahmiyat nahi dete. Is liye inhen ye bardasht nahi hota ke un ki bajaye koi aur khaas tor par koi ghareeb ghar ka bacha class mein ahmiyat ya position haasil kere.

Haasid ko ye baat khati hai ke dosray shakhs ko koi aaraam, faida ya achi cheez naseeb hi kyun hui. Ye soch usay maqabil shakhs ki taraf muanidana rad-e-amal par mael karti hai.

Wo usay nuqsaan pouncha kar khushi mehsoos karta hai is ki koshish hoti hai ke maqabil shakhs se wo sahuliyaat ya aaraam chean liya jaye jo khud usay naseeb na hawa. Hamaray muashray mein is terha ki barri misaal kala ilm ( kala jadu ) hai.

Hasdanh jazbaat ke haamil log apne doston aur rishta daaron ko nuqsaan pohanchanay ke liye safli ke aamlon ka sahara letay hain aur inhen barbaad kar ke khushi mehsoos karte hain. Kaarobar mein nuqsaan, maali badhaali, shadi mein rukawat, azdawaji taluqaat mein kasheedgi aur aulaad par bandish jaisay makrooh aamaal ki bunyaad ziyada tar hasad hi hoti hai.

Yun to haasid doosron ko nuqsaan pohanchanay ki koshish karta hai lekin darasal wo khud ko bhi nuqsaan pouncha raha hota hai. Haasid ke zehen par har waqt apni mehroomi ka afsos sawaar rehta hai. Wo apne se bartar shakhs ko dekh kar ghusse mein aa jata hai yun apne aap ko khud hi zehni pareshani mein mubtala kar deta hai.

Doosron ko nuqsaan pohanchanay ki koshish mein is ka zehni sukoon khatam ho jata hai. Wo apni behtari ke baray mein kuch soch hi nahi paata.

Haasid shakhs ke dil mein manfi jazbaat hi mojzan rehtay hain. Goya wo doosron ki bhalai ke liye bohat kam ho sochta hai. Zahir hai jis shakhs ka dil kala ho ga wo sehat mand sar garmion ka hissa ban hi nahi sakta.

Hasad aik aisi hi bemari hai jis ka shikaar duniya hi mein nafsiati aziat uthata aur dil hi dil mein ghatt kar mukhtalif zehni o jismani amraaz mein mubtala ho jata hai. Yani haasid ki saza ka amal is duniya hi se shuru hojata hai.

Isi wajah se quran pak mein hasad karne walay ke shar se allah ki pana mangi gayi hai kyunkay wo is baole pan mein kisi bhi had tak ja sakta hai.

Hazrat Abu-Hurera Razi Allah Taala Anho se riwayat hai ke Nabi Kareem (SAW)  ne farmaya ke hasad se bachte raho kyunkay hasad nakiyon ko is terha kha jata hai jaisay aag sookhi lakrion ko kha jati hai

Lehaza duniya aur akhirat ki bhalai ke liye is bemari ko janna aur is se bachney ki tadabeer akhtya ray karna zaroori hai.

Hasad karne wala chunkay doosron ki khoobiyon ko bardasht nahi kar sakta is liye un ki kisi baat par tareef ya pazeerai nahi karta. Agar tareef karta bhi hai to is andazmin ke is ke andar nafrat aur tanz wazeh ho jata hai. Is wajah se log is ki sohbat mein khush nahi hotay. Aur is se daur rehna hi behtar samajte hain.

Yun aik taraf to haasid tanhai aur doosri taraf adam tahaffuz ka bhi shikaar ho jata hai. Kyunkay jis shakhs se har koi daur jata rahay is mein kayi terha ke khauf aur ehsas adam tahaffuz parwan charhtay hain.

Hasad aik zarrar rasan jazba hai is liye is par qaboo paana bohat zaroori hai. Ye jazba insaan ki shakhsiyat ko buri terha tabah kar deta hai aur haasid ko is ka andaza bhi nahi ho paata. Hasdanh khayalat insani zehen par ghalib aa jayen to saari duniya dushman nazar anay lagti hai.

Yun haasid apna hi nuqsaan karta chala jata hai. Ba maqsad kamon ke bajaye wo doosron ki salahiyaton par krhhne aur inhen nuqsaan pohanchanay ki sazishon mein masroof rehta hai. Apni mehroomion par jhnjhlaht is ke ravayye mein talkhi ko aur bhi gehra kar deti hai.

Hasad mein mubtala honay ki soorten

Hasad mein mubtala honay ki darj zail soorten ho sakti hain. Is liye hasad mein mubtala honay wala shakhs har waqt kurhta rahay ga ke ye cheeze is ke paas hain to mere paas kyun nahi hain.

  • Doosron ke achay kapron, zewraat, makaan, gaari, mobile aur deegar samaan hasad mein mubtala honay ki aik soorat hoti hai.
  • Baaz log doosron ki shakhsiyat ke zahiri awsaf maslan shakal o soorat, zahiri khadd-o-khaal aur rehan sehan ko bardasht nahi kar paate aur hasad karte rehtay hain.
    Achi izzat, buland shohrat, doulat ki frwani, aala qabliyat ya ohda doosron ko hasad mein mubtala kar deta hai.
  • Baatini khususiyaat maslan khush ikhlaqi, milansaari, deendari aur her dil aziz se jalna bhi hasad ki aik qisam hai.
  • Kisi ki taraqqi se jalna jaisay kaarobar ki taraqqi, aala taleem ya achi mulazmat, achi position waghera
  • Dosron ki achi sehat, tandrusti, itminan, khushi aur raahat ko bardasht na karna bhi hasad ki aik shakal hai.
  • Rishte daaron mein agar koi achi position par hai to is se jalan, agar kisi ke bachay taraqqi ki manazil tay kar rahay hain to is baat par jalan, pas agar ye kaha jaye ke hasad mein mubtala rehne ki be shumaar soorten ho sakti hain to ghalat na ho ga.

Hasad ahadees ki roshni mein

  • Hazrat Ukba Bin Aamir (RA) se riwayat karte hain ke Nabi Kareem (SAW) ne farmaya : mujhe is ka dar bilkul nahi hai ke tum mere baad mushriq ho jao ge albata mein is baat ka andesha karta hon ke tum aapas mein aik dosray se duniya ke mazon mein parr kar hasad na karne lago.
  • Hazrat Ans bin Maalik (RA) ka bayan hai ke Rasool Allah (SAW) ne farmaya : aik dosray se bughz na rakho aur na hasad karo aur na gheebat karo aur allah ke banday bhai bhai ho kar raho aur kisi musalman ke liye jaaiz nahi ke apne bhai se teen din se ziyada judda rahay ( qata talluq kere )
  • Zumara Bin Salbah (RA) se riwayat hai ke Nabi Kareem (SAW) ne farmaya ke log hamesha bhalai se rahen ge jab tak wo hasad se bachte rahen ge.
  • Hazrat Abu-Hurera (RA) kehte hain ke Rasool Kareem (SAW) ne farmaya ” tum mein jo shakhs kisi aisay aadmi ko dekhe jo is se ziyada maldaar aur is se ziyada achi shakal o soorat ka ho ( aur is ko dekh kar apni haalat par ranj o hasrat ho, khuda ka shukar ada karne mein susti o kotahi waqay hoti ho aur is aadmi ke tain rashk o hasad ke jazbaat peda hotay hon ) to is ko chahiye ke wo is aadmi par nazar daal le jo is se kamtar darja ka hai ( taakay is ko dekh kar apni haalat par khuda ka shukar ada kere aur nemat ataa karne walay parvardigaar se khush ho”
  • Aap (SAW) ne farmaya ke tum bad-gumani se bachcho is liye ke bad gumani sab se ziyada jhooti baat hai aur na aur kisi ke ayob ki justojoo na karo aur na aik dosray par hasad karo aur na gheebat karo aur na bughz rakho aur allah ke bande bhai ban kar raho.

Hasad ka ilaj

Hasad ki kefiyat se niklny ke liye aap darj zail iqdamaat kar satke hain.

  • Doosron ke sath mawazna is niyat se har gaz nahi karna chahay ke aap un se kamtar hain balkay doosron ki salahiyaton ko dekh kar istifada karen, yani khud ko behtar karne ki koshish karen.
  • Apni salahiyaton ka aitraaf karen. Jo kuch aap ko ataa kya gaya hai is par apni tareef karen.
  • Ye baat hamesha yaad rakhen ke har insaan dosray insaan se mukhtalif aur munfarid hai. Jo kuch aap ko haasil hai wo har kisi ko haasil nahi ho sakta. Jo sifaat aap mein hain wo doosron mein nahi. Is liye zaroori nahi ke jo kuch doosron ke paas hai wo aap ke paas bhi ho. Apni infiradiat ko doosron ki shakhsi sifaat se mawazna kar ke nuqsaan na pohanchayen.
  • Kamtari ke ehsas ko har gaz ghalib na anay den jahan ehsas kamtari aur ehsas mehroomi ka ghalba hota hai wahein se manfi soch ka aaghaz hota hai.
  • Jin nematon par aap doosron se  hasad karte  hain. Un ke baray mein allah taala se dua karen ke wo aap ko bhi mil jayen
  • Doosron ki achi qismat par afsos karna aik manfi rad-e-amal hai. Is se parhaiz karen.
  • Hasad se nijaat panay ke liye mufeed amal ye hai ke hasad ke taqazay ke bar aks is shakhs ko faida pohanchanay ki koshish ki jaye,
  • Bartar ki bajaye kamtar ki taraf dekhen aur jo kuch aap ko haasil hai is par shukar ada karen.
  • Apne aap ko sehat mand sar garmion mein masroof rakhen.
  • Doosron par bulaa wajah tanqeed se parhaiz karen aur usay doston se bhi daur rahen jo is aadat ka shikaar hain.
  • Doosron ki tareef kya karen. Is terha aap manfi soch se daur rahen ge.
  • Apna tajzia waqtan foqatan karte raha karen aur manfi baton ko khatam kar ke achi aadaat ko apnaya karen.
  • Wo maadi cheeze jo aap ko hasad par majboor karti hain inhen earzi aur kamtar samajte hue jannat ki nematon ko yaad karen.
  • Hasad ka ilaj ye hai ke hasad karne wala ye soochey ke hasad ka nuqsaan deen o duniya mein mujhe hi ho ga. Jis se mein hasad karon  ga usay koi nuqsaan nahi ho ga, na is duniya mein na akhirat mein, balkay usay deen o duniya mein meri wajah se faida hi ho ga.

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